How do you feel when you hear friends sharing their successes and achievements?
When you scroll through social media, does it leave you feeling inadequate, wondering why you don’t seem to be as happy or successful as everyone else?
Comparing ourselves to others and using it as a reason to beat ourselves up, is a destructive habit that doesn’t serve us at all.
It can begin a downward spiral into a lack of confidence or low self-esteem, keeping us stuck in a place that only confirms our negative thoughts. Before you succumb to ‘comparisonitis’, here are some things to bear in mind.
Don’t believe everything you see
Remember that on social media we’re only seeing a single snapshot of a bigger picture. Most social media posts are a very edited version of reality.
People often share only the things they want people to see, just the highlights and not the full story, creating a skewed picture of their life that’s often far removed from the truth.
Sometimes people only share the things they feel good about, not to mislead their friends or followers, but simply because these are the things they’re excited to share.
Don’t compare yourself with someone’s highlights, you aren’t seeing the full picture or the journey they took to get there.
It’s not a competition
Life is not a race to the top with just one winner. Someone else’s success or happiness doesn’t mean that you can’t have your own.
Looking at other’s achievements and feeling left out, or left behind, won’t help you to get to where you want to be. Just the opposite in fact. It can harm your confidence and self-esteem, so you end up stuck where you are.
Focus on your own journey and not someone else’s, our path’s are rarely the same.
Instead of comparing, be inspired
If there’s someone you admire, or a friend or colleague who seems to be doing really well, instead of comparing try learning from them.
How did they get to where they are? What behaviours or habits do they have that benefit them?
Mirror those positive attributes, work on your self-development and concentrate on moving yourself forward towards your goals instead of wasting energy comparing yourself to others.
Do you suffer from ‘comparisonitis’ and need some further help to work on your self-development? If yes then book a free discovery call with me and we can look at how I can support you.