How to build your resilience to improve wellbeing and reduce stress
Looking after your emotional wellbeing can help you to cope with the day to day pressure of modern life. You’ll reduce the impact that stress has on you physically and mentally.
Developing emotional resilience isn’t just about a positive mindset, it’s also about being able to adapt when life becomes more challenging.
Here are some ways to build resilience
Get your needs met
Are you someone who tends to put everyone else first? Or maybe you just have too many demands on your time and energy. Eventually you risk becoming overwhelmed and burning out.
If this sounds like you, it’s vital you introduce good self-care into your day to day life. Ensure you are getting the sleep and rest that you need, and spend some time doing the things that are important to you.
Looking after yourself isn’t selfish so make caring for yourself a priority.
Work on your mindset
Having a positive mindset will help you to be more resilient, but as life can often be challenging, positive thinking alone may not be enough.
Maintain your perspective, especially if you know that you tend to catastrophise or over-react. Before you respond to something, develop a habit of pausing and taking a step back. As you develop a growth mindset, you will become more adaptable, focussing on opportunities and finding solutions, rather than on problems.
Let go of the things you can’t control
Some things are always going to be outside of your control, so trying to change them or control them will only cause you stress and unhappiness.
Learn to let go of the things you can’t control, even if you can’t accept them, and focus instead on the things that are in your control. Often this might simply be how you respond to a difficult person or situation.
Build a support network
We are wired to connect to others, but sometimes there will be people in your life who drag your down and drain your energy.
Aim to surround yourself with the people who add value to your life, people who are supportive and encouraging, trustworthy and authentic, but also those who will be honest with you and challenge you at times too.
You may not be able to distance yourself entirely from difficult people and relationships, but building resilience will make them easier to manage.
Be aware of your self-talk
Listen to the way your speak to yourself, and your internal dialogue. Are you being overly critical or negative towards yourself? If so, you are harming your self-esteem which will make you less able to cope with life’s challenges.
Watch out for the language you use when referring to yourself, whether this is internally or in conversation with others. Practice being kinder and less judgemental, and talking to yourself (and about yourself) in a more positive way.
Becoming more self-aware and reflective, knowing your triggers and developing more positive ways to respond to difficult situations, will help you to reduce stress and feel more in control.
Do you feel you need some help in building your resilience? If you’re finding any of the above points are stumbling blocks then let’s have a chat about how I can support you.