See things from a different perspective
Have you noticed that when you go somewhere familiar but for a change you sit in a different seat, like working from someone else’s desk or sitting on the other side of your favourite restaurant, you notice things you hadn’t seen before? This is the power of looking at things from a different perspective. ‘If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change,’ says Dr Wayne Dyer, and it’s true. Being able to view a situation objectively helps you to think more positively, not take things so personally, communicate with others in a more useful way, and have stronger relationships. So how can you do this?
Step outside of the picture
When we’re too close to a situation it becomes very hard to see things from a different perspective. If you’re trying to deal with a problem, or a difficult situation, or even having a conflict with someone – step outside of the picture. When you’re watching a movie or a TV show, you can see all the possibilities. You know what the lead characters should do to get out of a dilemma or what you want them to say to each other. Become a viewer and you’ll immediately be able to see things from a different point of view and find solutions.
If you’re having a difference of opinion with someone, or you’re taking comments they make personally – get curious. Ask yourself what else could this be about? What else is going on here? It might be that you have both misunderstood each other or the situation, or it could be that a person who seems annoyed with you is actually just frustrated with circumstances, and you happen to be the person there with them at the time. Try to step back and see the bigger picture of what’s going on outside of your immediate situation. You know those ariel photos of your home town, or the satellite images of the Earth from space? Doesn’t it look different? So ask yourself what else could be going on.
Don’t just see what’s wrong, see what’s right
We have a tendency to notice negatives more than positives, and this can lead into a negative mindset. It’s okay to be aware of negatives, but start to look for the positives in any situation. Work on your mindset and you’ll think and feel more positive and motivated. You’ll also find it easier to deal with difficult situations when they occur, and get much more enjoyment from the good things that happen.
What could change for you if you change the way you look at it?
Ruth Randall is a Life and Leadership Coach, and Team Development Specialist. Ruth works with teams to help them to build trust, develop strong working relationships, manage stress, and increase productivity and job satisfaction. She also coaches individual clients who want to make changes in their lives, careers and relationships.